“Taking a day off” when you’re dieting…

by Christine on July 28th, 2010

filed under Christine's Life Updates, General Information

Yesterday I didn’t go to the gym. I’m not going to go to the gym tonight, either. I’m “taking a day off.” Or, rather, two. Whatever, it’s okay.

Right?

The old Christine would have been in a frenzy. The old Christine would have been mumbling, “committment” in her own ear, scolding herself for being “weak,” and anxious because this “didn’t fit in with the plan.” The old Christine was the same person that dieted for years and never lost the weight. That obsessed over losing weight, did research, saw seven doctors for help. The same person that beat herself up every night when, finished tallying the calorie counts for the day, saw that she went over by 20 calories, or had more carbs than she should have. In short: the old Christine was a mental train wreck of depression, anxiety, and frustration.

The new Christine doesn’t approach weight loss the same way, but the difference is that this time the weight loss is working. You see, if you follow the 8 easy secrets to losing weight, you’ll notice that Rule #1 says that this whole “weight loss thing” should be easy.  If you’re stressing, losing sleep, feeling anxious, or mentally beating yourself up, then your plan definitely is not going to work, and it’s probably not working at all right now anyway because it’s intrisically flawed.

I do the best I can. Whenever I get a free day at home, I go to the gym. I work out hard, and I try to get the best calorie-burning bang for my buck. I also try to eat well, but you know, sometimes I just crave some chocolate or a beer.  And all of that is okay, but this time I’m changing. I’m giving myself some leeway. I’m allowing myself to be human. I’m allowing myself to enjoy life. I’m..well…giving myself allowances all over the freaking place.

I don’t want you to get the impression that I’m lackadaisical about this, or that I don’t care, or that I’m not committed. I’ve lost just about 90 pounds, and I’ve got 10 more to go and I’m going to get there, goddammit, come hell or high water.  But the process this time is much different. It’s….easier.  It’s the only way I can explain it.  I do my best, I’m conscious of what I’m doing (and what I’m not doing) all the time. But if I want to go out for a beer and listen to a concert, like I will tonight, then that’s okay.  It’s okay because it’s one beer. It’s okay because my mental health is just as important to me than my physical health. It’s okay because I know this is a lifestyle change, not a diet. It’s not a sprint to lose those 10 pounds as fast as I can. No, I’m losing slowly but steadily, and that’s okay.

I’ll get to my goals, but I’m going to have a wonderful time getting there.

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  • http://freckleonthenose.blogspot.com Freckle on the Nose of Life’s

    I think it’s good that you don’t beat yourself up over taking a day or two off, whether it’s from exercise or something else. I feel like holding yourself to too high of a standard is a slippery slope!

    I know from experience, since there have been times when I think, “Well, if I’m going to have a day off from exercise, let’s have a day off from eating healthy” and then I eat tons of junk, feel bad about myself, and the diet is essentially over. Such an exhausting cycle!

  • http://freckleonthenose.blogspot.com Freckle on the Nose of Life’s

    P.S. Regarding your comment on my blog, I have no idea how I forgot chili! You are right – it’s the perfect fall food!

  • http://freckleonthenose.blogspot.com Freckle on the Nose of Life’s Complexion

    I think it’s good that you don’t beat yourself up over taking a day or two off, whether it’s from exercise or something else. I feel like holding yourself to too high of a standard is a slippery slope!

    I know from experience, since there have been times when I think, “Well, if I’m going to have a day off from exercise, let’s have a day off from eating healthy” and then I eat tons of junk, feel bad about myself, and the diet is essentially over. Such an exhausting cycle!

  • http://freckleonthenose.blogspot.com Freckle on the Nose of Life’s Complexion

    P.S. Regarding your comment on my blog, I have no idea how I forgot chili! You are right – it’s the perfect fall food!

  • http://www.clydesdaleproject.blogspot.com Big Clyde

    I totally agree. When I started losing, I thought that once I hit goal weight (still far off), I would establish a 10 pound +/- range that I would allow myself to flex on before the alarm bells went off. Now, I am realizing that I am okay with maybe a 5 pound range for certain times along the way, if I am in a stressful situation or very busy time.

    I think this is okay, but we’ll see. Your results seem to show that it works for you!

  • http://www.clydesdaleproject.blogspot.com Big Clyde

    I totally agree. When I started losing, I thought that once I hit goal weight (still far off), I would establish a 10 pound +/- range that I would allow myself to flex on before the alarm bells went off. Now, I am realizing that I am okay with maybe a 5 pound range for certain times along the way, if I am in a stressful situation or very busy time.

    I think this is okay, but we’ll see. Your results seem to show that it works for you!

  • http://spunkysuzi.blogspot.com suzanne

    I think your taking a very smart approach! And much more do-able.

  • http://spunkysuzi.blogspot.com suzanne

    I think your taking a very smart approach! And much more do-able.

  • http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog Diane Fit to the Finish

    You are doing a really great job of thinking your choices through but not letting them rule you.

  • http://www.fittothefinish.com/blog Diane Fit to the Finish

    You are doing a really great job of thinking your choices through but not letting them rule you.

  • http://responsibility199.blogspot.com/ Patrick

    Good reminder in this post, getting healthy is not a sprint, it can be a race of sorts in that we shouldn’t take 20 years to lose down to a healthy weight, but we need not try and undue 20 years of bad habits (my experience) in just a few months or even a year. Get it done in a safe pace, amen!

    Field of Dreams – I did forget that off my list the pther day. Not sure why as I have been there, about 5 years ago. Took my son and he was able to go out and play ball on that field for a half hour or so.

  • http://responsibility199.blogspot.com/ Patrick

    Good reminder in this post, getting healthy is not a sprint, it can be a race of sorts in that we shouldn’t take 20 years to lose down to a healthy weight, but we need not try and undue 20 years of bad habits (my experience) in just a few months or even a year. Get it done in a safe pace, amen!

    Field of Dreams – I did forget that off my list the pther day. Not sure why as I have been there, about 5 years ago. Took my son and he was able to go out and play ball on that field for a half hour or so.

  • tracy

    i think your doing great with not stressing yourself out if you dont exercise etc. thats why youve done so well! i no you will reach your ten pound goal. takecare

    • http://www.phoenixrevolution.net Christine

      Thanks tracy! i sure hope you’re right!

  • tracy

    i think your doing great with not stressing yourself out if you dont exercise etc. thats why youve done so well! i no you will reach your ten pound goal. takecare

    • http://www.phoenixrevolution.net Christine

      Thanks tracy! i sure hope you’re right!

  • http://hawaiiboundbandster@blogspot.com Debi

    A quick response to your comment on my blog!

    I will try to get someone to take my photo on the bike someday!! I can’t ride it yet, as it is about 1000lbs and until we get the Trike kit attached to it, it is literally impossible for me to ride, since I can’t even put my feet on the ground!! LOL

    Wow! A Possum? I saw one cross the road in front of me once, but never in the same space as me!! Ewe!